Top 4 Rules for the Casual Sex Relationship

Top 4 Rules for the Casual Sex Relationship

Casual Sex- Sexual Activity Between Individuals That Are Not Committed to Each Other

Top 4 Rules for the Casual Sex Relationship

This topic was sparked during Love and Lust’s Episode 23 I do not believe anything you say After Sex. A Page From My F***Buddy Rule Book (Ft. Westside).

Make sure you listen to or watch the Love and Lust podcast about Casual Sex. If you have any questions, please e-mail Ana Lefebvre at itsanalefebvre@gmail.com.  

Prior to this Love and Lust Episode, I didn’t believe anything that is said after sex, but after this episode, I have changed my mind. I have changed the rule to the first 48. The first 24 before and then the 24 hours after a casual hookup, one-night stand/ two-night stand, situationship, entanglement, or just plainly – a casual sex relationship.

Now, this is with someone that you do not have any commitment to and have never talked about a future with or have discussed a future with and they have not confirmed that they want one with you. One of those stagnant casual sex situations that are clearly just a good time.

I think that sometimes we forget to enjoy the moments and we try to impose our ideas of a relationship on something that should be one of those situations of “it is what it is”. We look for more into something that we have not communicated that we want more with. Keep in mind, most relationships end. Not everyone is compatible or good for us.

Here are my Top 4 Casual Sex Rules:

  1. You can not change someone; therefore, if they say they do not want anything that represents a commitment. Believe them. Now, if you can handle that, treat your situation as a casual sex relationship and do not push for more unless the person agrees to more.

2. Do not give relationship benefits to a casual sex relationship. You are giving this person too much of yourself and perhaps blocking your true match, by spending too much time with this person or putting too much energy into this casual sex engagement. Do not blur the lines. It is what it is.

3. Don’t believe the sweet nothings that are whispered in your ear when the person fails to commit to anything. This aligns with the topic of the first 48.

Now, I was asked if this applies to both males and females. I am heavy into communication. Why would something be acknowledged and said one time? I also express in other episodes of Love and Lust, that the bedroom is the room to relax and have fun. It shouldn’t be the place where you hold heavy conversations and discussions even if it is a casual hook-up.

4. Know when to end it.  The spark will eventually fade and it will be time to move on. Do not ghost the other person, but communicate when it’s time for you to move on. 

Related: 14 Tips for Female O

  • The female libido depends on the individual. 
  • I have explained in previous podcasts that about 70% of women do not have an orgasm from sexual intercourse. My question to you, if you were used to not having an orgasm, would you always want sex?
  • Female Oral Sex is extremely important since this how most females reach an orgasm, but is seen as optional*.
  • There’s no female viagra (think about that).

Did you know that females can have multiple orgasms and different types?

Female Oral Sex

14 Tips for Female Oral Sex

Did you know most women only have an orgasm from vaginal stimulation- oral sex?

Female Oral Sex
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Oral sex is important for both parties. Statistically, it is the best way for females to reach an orgasm.  Here are 14 tips to help with the female orgasm. 

  1. Try doing it the way you are comfortable with before adding anything.

  2. Communicate with your partner when stimulating them orally and with your hands. 

  3. Try different angles.

  4. Stroke across versus up and down. 

  5. Try stroking the sides of the clit and the clitoral hood.*

  6. Stimulate the area between the anus and vagina, if your partner is open to this.

  7. Try giving oral with her hips lifted (use a pillow).

  8. If anal play is liked, trying stimulating in doggy position. 

  9. Try vibrators.

  10. Try lubricants.

  11. Watch how she masturbates.* 

  12. Watch lesbian porn.*

  13. Tease

  14. If you care, don’t give up.

The key is to communicate and to have fun with it. Both parties should enjoy it. Have fun exploring the female sexuality.

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Female Sexuality Part 2

Female Sexuality

Sexuality- your attraction, behaviors, feelings and thoughts towards others, sexually.

Female Sexuality

I wrote this podcast series because of the misconception about women’s sexuality.

I believe it is best to start at the very beginning to actually understand the cultural and economic circumstances that surround female sexuality measuring cup.

1. Female sexuality is culturally and economically related.

2. Females are traditionally supposed to make themselves desirable, but nothing more. If a woman is sexually forward, negative innuendo are often said about her. 

3. Society throws the fairytale view of romance to women and they often subconsciously use this as the romance measuring cup.

4. We as women, must change the current narrative of the female sexuality. 

Related: 14 Tips for Female O

  • The female libido depends on the individual. 
  • I have explained in previous podcasts that about 70% of women do not have an orgasm from sexual intercourse. My question to you, if you were used to not having an orgasm, would you always want sex?
  • Female Oral Sex is extremely important since this how most females reach an orgasm, but is seen as optional*.
  • There’s no female viagra (think about that).

Did you know that females can have multiple orgasms and different types?

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Watch the After Show Here

Covid-19

How to Breathe Through 7 COVID-19 Changes

By Jennifer Scott

Covid-19

As a premiere resource for millennials, we get that many young adults are facing some serious changes due to coronavirus. From adapting to restrictions to adjusting to now adjusting to reopenings, it’s been a roller-coaster spring for sure. Of course, some shifts may be easier to manage than others, including these common COVID-19 changes: 

Buying Your Dream Home 

With so many things uncertain due to COVID-19, it may seem silly to buy a home right now. If you’re in the market for a new home, however, this may in fact be the perfect time to begin looking for your dream home. Interest rates are at record lows, and this means you could end up paying a lot less per month for a new house. If you are worried about COVID risks, you can also turn to online tools throughout the homebuying process, which can include 3D tours and virtual showings. 

Selling Your Current Home 

Now if you are thinking about selling your home, you may also want to think about listing it sooner rather than later. That’s because despite COVID-19 impacts, buyers are still out searching for their perfect home. So you don’t want to miss out on a hot real estate market! You can also use the same online tools mentioned above to virtually sell your home. Although, you will also want to complete a few staging projects to help your home compete with other listings. 

Sprucing Up Your Home 

So maybe you’re planning on staying put in your current home. Even so, with more free time on your hands, home improvements may be top of mind. Some simple DIY projects you can use to keep yourself busy and keep your home looking its best include changing out the hardware on your kitchen cabinets, upgrading your walls with wallpaper or changing out your light fixtures. 

Changing Up Your Career 

Another major change people are dealing with right now is career shifts. With so many industries still at a standstill due to COVID-19 restrictions, people are looking for new ways to generate income. If you’re out of work or looking to supplement, online freelance job boards make it easy to find clients and customers in your industry, so you could even think about freelancing as a full-time career. For example, if you are a creative type who has a passion for writing, you could supplement your income with a creative writing gig. There are also jobs for people in law, marketing, engineering, IT; the options are truly limitless. 

Evolving Your Existing Career 

If you’re still working and happy in your current career field, you could also think about using any extra time you have to polish your skills. Many prestigious colleges are still offering free online courses in subjects like computer science, risk management and design. Another way you can boost your career is by using this time to work on your resume and cover letters. 

Boosting Your Remote Work Game 

A smaller job change that millions of Americans are dealing with right now is the transition from working in an office to working at home. This transition has become more difficult if you have kids who are out of school and stuck at home as well, but there are ways to find balance. For instance, you could set up a home office to create separation between your work and home life. You can also create a schedule and establish some rules for your family during this time. 

Giving Yourself a Brand New Look 

Depending on where you live, salons and barbershops may be opening back up. Still, many of these businesses may be operating at reduced capacity for the foreseeable future. If you want a simple change, like new bangs, you also may not have to wait for an appointment to freshen up your look. There are even quite a few tutorials you can follow online. If you want a bigger change, like highlights, you really should wait until you can see a professional. 

We’re all trying to deal with a lot of unpredictability right now. However, if there’s one thing that’s certain about life, no matter what, it’s change. So whenever you face shifts in your life, whether trivial or monumental, make sure you have the right resources to adapt and cope. 

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Love & Lust Podcast

Don’t Be Afraid of the Friend Zone

Love & Lust The Podcast

Do you fear the friend zone?

I get asked this question a lot. It is a real fear that exists for guys, but the friend zone should not be something that you are afraid of, I mean at least you are in a zone right? Please note that the YouTube video and Podcast is different. 

Click below to watch or listen to relationship advice about “Signs that You are in the Friend Zone” and why you should not be afraid of it. Also, when should you friend zone yourself? 

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What is Hyaluronic Acid?

What is Hyaluronic Acid?

Updated 1.18.21
What is Hyaluronic Acid?

What is Hyaluronic Acid?

Hyaluronic acid is substance that is naturally found and produced in the body. It is a humectant as it holds water to the surface of your skin. The largest amount of HA is found in your skin, eyes and joints (connective tissue) (1, 2).

What does it do?

The main purpose of Hyaluronic Acid is to keep your tissues lubricated and moist by retaining water (1).

Where can you find it in beauty products?

It is found in some lip fillers and other topical beauty products (1, 2).

It comes in the forms of injections, eye drops, serums and supplements (1, 2).

What else does it treat?

When taken orally, studies have found that it can help increase skin moisture and reduce the appearance of fine lines and wrinkles.

When used topically, it can soothe redness and improve the suppleness of the skin.

It is also used to treat osteoarthritis (1).

Hyaluronic acid in beauty

It is popular in skin care because of its ability to restore moisture barriers and keep skin hydrated. Since the body produces it naturally, allergic reactions to it, are slim to none (3).  

Here is what it is known to do/treat:

How is it made?

Non-vegan HA is made from rooster combs and other animal tissue. Vegan hyaluronic acid is not plant based. It is actually made from bacteria such as horse flu (1, 2, 4).

Tips

Enhance your body’s natural production of Hyaluronic Acid by eating foods that aid in reproduction like drinking a bone broth or eating green leafy vegetables (4).  

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The Ana and Amier Show Episode 10. Ana Lefebvre and Amier Willis talk about their college experience, having multiple college degrees and the college life.  They then go to a Taco Truck near the Staple Center in Los Angeles and talk with the Food Truck Chef, Carmen. Explore Los Angeles with them…