Top 4 Rules for the Casual Sex Relationship

Top 4 Rules for the Casual Sex Relationship

Love & Lust Podcast

Top 4 Rules for the Casual Sex Relationship

Casual Sex- Sexual Activity Between Individuals That Are Not Committed to Each Other

By Ana Lefebvre

11-1-2020
Top 4 Rules for the Casual Sex Relationship

This topic was sparked during Love and Lust’s Episode 23 I do not believe anything you say After Sex. A Page From My F***Buddy Rule Book (Ft. Westside).

Make sure you listen to or watch the Love and Lust podcast about Casual Sex. If you have any questions, please e-mail Ana Lefebvre at itsanalefebvre@gmail.com.  

Prior to this Love and Lust Episode, I didn’t believe anything that is said after sex, but after this episode, I have changed my mind. I have changed the rule to the first 48. The first 24 before and then the 24 hours after a casual hookup, one-night stand/ two-night stand, situationship, entanglement, or just plainly – a casual sex relationship.

Now, this is with someone that you do not have any commitment to and have never talked about a future with or have discussed a future with and they have not confirmed that they want one with you. One of those stagnant casual sex situations that are clearly just a good time.

I think that sometimes we forget to enjoy the moments and we try to impose our ideas of a relationship on something that should be one of those situations of “it is what it is”. We look for more into something that we have not communicated that we want more with. Keep in mind, most relationships end. Not everyone is compatible or good for us.

Here are my Top 4 Casual Sex Rules:

  1. You can not change someone; therefore, if they say they do not want anything that represents a commitment. Believe them. Now, if you can handle that, treat your situation as a casual sex relationship and do not push for more unless the person agrees to more.

2. Do not give relationship benefits to a casual sex relationship. You are giving this person too much of yourself and perhaps blocking your true match, by spending too much time with this person or putting too much energy into this casual sex engagement. Do not blur the lines. It is what it is.

3. Don’t believe the sweet nothings that are whispered in your ear when the person fails to commit to anything. This aligns with the topic of the first 48.

Now, I was asked if this applies to both males and females. I am heavy into communication. Why would something be acknowledged and said one time? I also express in other episodes of Love and Lust, that the bedroom is the room to relax and have fun. It shouldn’t be the place where you hold heavy conversations and discussions even if it is a casual hook-up.

4. Know when to end it.  The spark will eventually fade and it will be time to move on. Do not ghost the other person, but communicate when it’s time for you to move on. 

Related: 14 Tips for Female O

  • The female libido depends on the individual. 
  • I have explained in previous podcasts that about 70% of women do not have an orgasm from sexual intercourse. My question to you, if you were used to not having an orgasm, would you always want sex?
  • Female Oral Sex is extremely important since this how most females reach an orgasm, but is seen as optional*.
  • There’s no female viagra (think about that).

Did you know that females can have multiple orgasms and different types?

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14 Tips for Female Oral Sex

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14 Tips for Female Oral Sex

Did you know most women only have an orgasm from vaginal stimulation- oral sex?

By Ana Lefebvre

07-10-2020
Female Oral Sex
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Oral sex is important for both parties. Statistically, it is the best way for females to reach an orgasm.  Here are 14 tips to help with the female orgasm. 

  1. Try doing it the way you are comfortable with before adding anything.

  2. Communicate with your partner when stimulating them orally and with your hands. 

  3. Try different angles.

  4. Stroke across versus up and down. 

  5. Try stroking the sides of the clit and the clitoral hood.*

  6. Stimulate the area between the anus and vagina, if your partner is open to this.

  7. Try giving oral with her hips lifted (use a pillow).

  8. If anal play is liked, trying stimulating in doggy position. 

  9. Try vibrators.

  10. Try lubricants.

  11. Watch how she masturbates.* 

  12. Watch lesbian porn.*

  13. Tease

  14. If you care, don’t give up.

The key is to communicate and to have fun with it. Both parties should enjoy it. Have fun exploring the female sexuality.

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Watch the After Show Here

Female Sexuality Part 2

Female Sexuality

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Female Sexuality

Sexuality- your attraction, behaviors, feelings and thoughts towards others, sexually.

By Ana Lefebvre

07-10-2020
Female Sexuality

I wrote this podcast series because of the misconception about women’s sexuality.

I believe it is best to start at the very beginning to actually understand the cultural and economic circumstances that surround female sexuality measuring cup.

1. Female sexuality is culturally and economically related.

2. Females are traditionally supposed to make themselves desirable, but nothing more. If a woman is sexually forward, negative innuendo are often said about her. 

3. Society throws the fairytale view of romance to women and they often subconsciously use this as the romance measuring cup.

4. We as women, must change the current narrative of the female sexuality. 

Related: 14 Tips for Female O

  • The female libido depends on the individual. 
  • I have explained in previous podcasts that about 70% of women do not have an orgasm from sexual intercourse. My question to you, if you were used to not having an orgasm, would you always want sex?
  • Female Oral Sex is extremely important since this how most females reach an orgasm, but is seen as optional*.
  • There’s no female viagra (think about that).

Did you know that females can have multiple orgasms and different types?

2.

Watch the After Show Here

Valentine's Day Gift Ideas

5 Affordable Valentine’s Day Gift Ideas for Women

5 Affordable Valentine's Day Gift Ideas for your Girlfriend or Wife

Gift Ideas for that special lady in your life

Updated 02-04-2019
Ana Veiga

Can’t figure out what to get your wife or girlfriend for Valentine’s Day? Here are some fail proof Valentine’s Days gift ideas that fits any budget. 

Tip:  Start with a budget and work around that.

Don’t have money for a fancy dinner- then make it.

Don’t have money for a full bouquet of roses, buy just one or go to Home Depot and buy a nice plant. 

1. Bathtub Tray

Perfect for an at home spa day. Add other gifts like bath balms and a nice loofah.

2. Jewelry Box

A jewelry box is a fantastic Valentine’s day gift idea. Just make sure the recipient has jewelry to place inside of it. 

Tip: TJMaxx is a great place to go or Amazon if you are on a time crunch. 

3. An Online Club

You can format it to your budget. Choose for a couple of months or for the whole year. The great thing about this is that it is the gift that keeps on giving.

Birchbox- awesome beauty products and makeup

AdoreMe – lingerie and more

ShoeDazzle – for the shoe lover

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4. Ouai Gift Set

Ouai is a current cult favorite. Their hair products are sheek and of high quality.

5. Yoga Mat

For your Yoga Enthusiast or Spouse that wants to get into Yoga. Yoga matts are also perfect for stretching in the house and meditating.

 

 
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Use these quotes to help you with your next romance letter or feel free to use in your daily life. 

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11-08-2018
Things Every Bride Should Know Before Her Wedding Day

When your wedding day comes it’s going to be quick and fast and you are going to want to be prepared. There may be a lot of last minute things that happen that will be out of your control, but the things you can control, you should be prepared for. 

Here's 14 Things Every Bride Should Know Before Her Wedding Day.

1. Don’t be afraid to ask for money instead of a gift registry. I know that this may be frowned upon, but weddings are expensive and if you don’t have money for a honeymoon, this is a great way to fund it.

Now a days, a lot of wedding registry gifts are something we already have or don’t need. Decades ago traditional couples would get married and move into a house together. The wedding registry was a terrific way for them to get things like mixing bowls. Now a days, couples already live together and the necessities are already purchased. 

“Don’t plan your trip counting on wedding money from the honeymoon. It is financially wise to wait to see what funds that you will have (if you are counting on the wedding money) and then plan it according to your budget.” -Ana Editor-In-Chief

2. Wear comfortable shoes.

Even if your feet are not shown, it is tacky to exchange shoes. You will notice it in the picture for later. Just wear comfortable shoes.

“If you are going to wear flats, wear flats the whole night. My shoes were not the prettiest, but they were pretty and the heel was comfortable.” -Ana

3. Make sure you check your undergarments weeks before the wedding.

The correct undergarments can be hard to find. The last thing you want is to look in the mirror and see lines or see through fabric. 

“It took me almost 4 weeks to find the correct undergarments for my dress. Don’t wait until the last minute or the day of to try your undergarments on.”- Ana

4. If you are doing your own makeup, make sure you practice and then take pictures with flash to see what they will look like. If you hire makeup artist, always hire someone that is highly recommended because slow or unqualified makeup artists can make/break your day.

The timing of getting your hair and makeup done is important, especially if your whole makeup bridal party is getting it done too. If you have large bridal party, have all of your bridesmaids bring their foundation, that way the makeup artist do not have skin tone match them. 

“With hair/makeup and photographers, I always advise to use someone that you know or comes highly recommended. Make sure you have at least 3 hair/makeup artist per 5 people. ” -Ana

5. Don’t get a facial right before the wedding.

Get it at least a week prior. You do not want any flare up or allergic reactions to happen for your wedding day. 

“I would never try a facial for the first time right before my wedding. Get one a couple months prior to test it out. .” -Ana

6. Have someone set aside food from the cocktail hour for you to eat.

During your cocktail hour, you will be probably be taking pictures. You might completely miss it; so, have someone bring you food so you don’t go into the reception hungry. The reception you will sit down for a moment before everything starts and you will also be greeting guests. 

“The first 2 hours of the reception goes by fast. That is usually the time the food is served. If you are planning to drink, plan to eat as well. “- Ana

7. Have some with pockets that is responsible, like your dad, brother etc. hold your phone and lipstick.

If your dad is walking you down the isle, his suit coat pockets are the perfect place to stash your essentials during the ceremony. 

8. Assign tasks to people, even if you have a wedding planner.

Delegating is a must for you to enjoy your day. Have someone you trust check on things you may be nervous about.

“I wish I delegated more tasks. I will always be haunted by the 1000’s of flower petals that missed the ceremony floor. “- Ana

9. Pause and take in the day.

They day will go by so fast that everything will be hard to remember. Take in the moment and enjoy what the day actually means. Don’t sweat the small stuff.

“I had about 3 huge mishaps on the day of the wedding that I had to just let go of. I was already tired and stressed that if I decided to make those things the focus of my attention, I would have fell apart and the wedding would have been a disaster “- Ana

10. Accept that the day might not be all about you.

 A lot of people with a lot of different personalities will be there. Do not let anything ruin your day.

11. Let go… if something happens have someone assigned to handle it. Let nothing ruin your day.

Have someone you trust handle all of the things that may come up. At the end of the day, the bride does have to entertain and greet her guest. You need to be front and center, not in the back handeling things. 

12. Make sure you eat before the wedding.

Eat every meal. Do not skip a meal. 

13. Do nothing the day of the wedding.

The only thing that you should plan on doing is arriving at your venue. If you have to go to the salon, make sure you have someone with you that can help you stay on track with time.  

14. Practice moving in your dress.

Have a friend move around in the dress for you to emulate your spouse in your wedding dance. Practice walking around, so you don’t trip the day of.