Kevin Samuels

Kevin Samuels is Dead

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Kevin Samuels
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Update:

According to the police report, a call to 911 was made on Thursday, May 5, 2022, by a woman in Samuel’s apartment. She told officers that Samuels had complained about chest pain and collapsed. She then called 911.

Samuels was taken to Piedmont Hospital where he passed away, police said. 

 

5.5.22

The internet is in a debate after the news of the self proclaimed relationship guru, and image consultant, Kevin Samuels, has passed away. 

Kevin Samuels was known for his controversial topics and views on women and dating. He also spoke to men, but his unapologetic and harsh opinion on women is what brought him fame. The influencer’s radical content caught the attention over millions of viewers with his YouTube having 1.42M subscribers.

Kevin’s fans and critics are in a debate over the validity of his death and also the non-mourning behavior that is appearing on Twitter. 

Kevin was 56 years of age.

Story is developing. 

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OPINION

City boys down 10,000....toxic kings beware.

BY NINA CHILDS

Depending on who you talk to…today is a sad day. If you ask that toxic dude that you know that objectifies women, sees them as objects to be owned and controlled and thinks he deserves a submissive woman who adores him even though he’s future 2.0 then yes, today is a sad day as word on the wire is that Kevin Samuels, the controversial youtube “relationship guru” has passed away at the age of 56. If you ask 90% of black women in America….it’s Thursday. I know, I know…I’m a heartless bitch. But not actually. I believe in having reverence for life. I respect the flesh while it’s living and breathing. Once it’s passed it passed, and i like several other hundreds of thousands of black women have sat and watched the clips of Kevin Samuels sitting behind his pc with his glasses and tailored suit, reading women to filth, calling them 6’s because they have natural faces and bodies, and telling them they will never find love because they’re old, or out of shape or single mothers. None of which is true by the way. If you are like so many of the toxic niggerly bears that subscribe to his ideology of hatred disguised as “unsugar-coated truths” then you think we lost an icon. In actually he was divisive and a dream killer.I have never, ever,ever sat through 1 single Kevin Samuels live stream. I find no joy or enjoyment in watching people get torn down for the sake of entertainment. I have like so many saw the cliffs notes and I don’t see any of this as a loss. I’m not sorry about death ever. It’s a part of life.

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how to start a conversation on a dating app

How to Start a Conversation on a Dating App

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Asking Ana

Oh, dating apps. Do you love or hate them?

Regardless of your feelings about them, it is the most contemporary way to date in the current millennial culture. 

This guide will help you regarding how to start your conversation when you are dating online. An intriguing one liner is what you need initially. But how to prose the perfect initial statement?

Let’s find out a few methods that you can use for starting a conversation on a dating app.

You can start the conversation with a question

Think of an interesting question to ask. I have a friend that is a pro on these apps. He has 5-7 pictures on either tinder or bumble and he starts his conversations depending on the picture that the person clicked on. If it is an outdoorsy picture, he talks about something pertaining to being outside. If it is a formal picture, he curates his initial question, well formally.

If it is a food picture, then talk about food. Do you see where I am going here?

It can be a would you rather related question or you can go for the question that is a little bit more quirky to give an edge to the conversation. Just don’t overdo it and ask something that is completely random and not individualized. 

You can also ask for recommendations

Actually read their bio and look at their pictures. There is a difference between coming off as observant versus stalkerish. Observe a fact about them and ask for a recommendation leaning towards that. This is an incredibly easy way to start a conversation on a dating app. 

Start with a fact about yourself

You can start with a fact about yourself and leave room for discussion, by asking a question at the end about it. Once again, curate towards the person. Don’t open with a random fact just about yourself. Tie yourself and the person together. 

For example, if I saw a picture of them in Chicago I would say something like:

“I’ve never been to Chicago, what would be something you recommend doing if I go.”

Make sure you are sincere in your questions. This can be the perfect icebreaker to start with and also, an easy way to begin a conversation. 

Complement their bio

If you find something interesting in their bio, use it as an opportunity to break the ice and start a conversation with the other person. Once again, make sure you leave it open-ended.

Do not be sugar-sweet

Be yourself and do not overdo it. When you are being a little too extra (not yourself)  it can be seen as a red flag. Be nice and be real. Being authentic to yourself is what matters the most. 

Ask them questions about their goals 

Asking about their future may be too ambitious, but asking for their goals is different. When you are starting to talk to someone it is important that you understand what they want, but don’t push it. Live in the moment a bit. It will help you to align yourself with them and you will know if you are on the same page or not.

It will give you more ideas regarding what to talk about and what not to talk about. 

Once again, read the bio. They may not be on the dating app for the same reasons that you are on it and do not be too intense. Do not ask something that is uncomfortable. “Where do you see yourself in five years?”- is way too much. Instead, ask them about something that is not so far out. 

Spark the chemistry with quirky questions and do not rush things

If you are moving too fast it might deter the other person; therefore, it is best that you keep it slow but start with quirky conversation starters initially.

Think of something that is creative and lighthearted. When you both are comfortable with each other, it is easier to learn about the other person.

Wondering what to start with?

Let me help you out with a few ways to start a conversation on a dating app:

  • You can ask them about their photos.
  • You can ask them if there are places that they want to visit. I would ask this if you find photos regarding travel on their profile, or something about traveling in their description. In the initial conversation, do not ask random questions. It is more sincere when you ask a question pertaining to them. 
  • You can ask them about their work and their job and open the floor to discussing yours. Work can be a great conversation starter.
  • You can talk about your favorite music or their favorite singer. You can discuss movies that you like and the books that you’ve read. Food is also a great conversation starter. Apps like Tinder also have an option to list your favorite Spotify songs. Once again, I can not stress this enough, initially discuss things that pertain to them. 

Try not to be a conversation killer and keep your conversation open-ended.

Caution:

I would be careful of the over-the-top compliments at the beginning of the conversation because they can come off insincere.

Make sure that you are not making fun of yourself because it might seem self-deprecating and show a lack of confidence.

Make sure you are approachable. When you are approachable and you are asking open ended questions, you are allowing room for a conversation. 

Also, check the app. Do not get on and message people only to respond days later. If you want to be successful on the app then you need to be proactive on the dating app. 

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What Series to Watch on Netflix this Month?

What Series to Watch on Netflix this Month?

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What Series to Watch on Netflix this Month?

Have a bit of extra time this month? Are you planning to binge-watch a lot of Netflix series that you have been missing out on? Well, not to worry because we have created the perfect watchlist for you that you must take a look at. We have compiled a few of the options for the Netflix featured series that are absolutely perfect for spending your month binge-watching on some extremely amazing series.

Take a look below and find out some of the best series to watch on netflix this month. 

Midnight Mass

Just in time for Autumn. Midnight Mass is a limited series to watch on Netflix. Genre: Drama; Supernatural; Horror. “The description is : The arrival of a charismatic priest brings miracles, mysteries and renewed religious fervour to a dying town.”

Evil has come into a dying town in the form of “miraculous events”. Some do not consider it a horror, but a “intelligent religious drama”. 

Schitt’s Creek 

This is the story of the Rose family that was formerly rich and then had to touch the ground because of an uncertain incident. The accent of Moira Rose, the spirit of Johnny Rose, the wardrobe of David Rose, and the vibrancy of Alexis Rose. 

This show having a vast range of talent combined with sweet and simple comedy, will be the perfect mood buster and can be the ideal show that you can watch every day. It is the kind of show that will keep you hooked, and you will definitely want to keep watching it every now and then.

Bridgerton

This is the true Royal show that has the perfect essence of royalty with the little gossip fun from the letters written by Lady whistle down. It is the kind of show that has the Perfect Combination of romance and thrill. 

People have been hooked to the show because of the British accent, along with the delicacy of the women in the show.

Friends

Friends are an evergreen show, and if you have not watched it already, what are you waiting for? Start watching it right now. It is the perfect essence of comedy combined with romance and the true meaning of friendship. This group of 6 people will make your day anytime, anywhere. It is the kind of show that you will watch again and again but will never get bored with—the show that keeps you hooked toward and whenever you get overwhelmed.

Special

Another great show for the people who are the true gem of the people. This show is about people with any disability but showcasing how they are still winning in life. The main character of the show is the true inspiration.

Haunting of the Hill House

One of the best horror series that you will find on Netflix is this show named Haunting of the hill house. It has the perfect blend of thrill combined with horror offering you a perfect experience. It may be a bit too intense at some points. But it is definitely worth watching.

Never Have I Ever

If you are planning to watch something related to teen drama, this show named never have I ever is the best show to watch. With two seasons, this one has been a great show that people are loving. It is a story that revolves around an Indian girl trying to get a boyfriend. It’s not just about getting a boyfriend, but it is a lot more and provides you with a good amount of soul food and life lessons.

Sex Education 

Another show that it is a perfect choice if you are looking for team drama combined with all the sex information that you need. It is the kind of show that will provide you with all the fun that you need with a lot of good information and a binge-worthy show that you will definitely enjoy.

Sweet Tooth

Do you love baking and cooking? Do you have a sweet tooth and want to enjoy baking some exemplary desserts, well, a sweet tooth with definitely hook you towards it. 

It is a show that has several seasons, and you will definitely enjoy the competition of making the best dessert. It has a lot of variety that you will love to watch. People who love cooking and eating good food will definitely enjoy watching this exceptional so.

Orange Is the New Black

One of our last recommendations is to watch Orange Is the New Black. It is one of the oldest series with a lot of seasons, but it is definitely worth watching. With the perfect drama and the bit of The Darkside, this series is worth watching. Not only it will provide you with a good amount of insight regarding the life inside prison for women, but it will also tell you a lot more about the issues of the women. It is a must-watch show if you have not watched it already.

Long Distance Relationship Quotes

Inspiring Long Distance Relationship Quotes

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Relationships, in general, can be complicated and if it is a long distance relationship, it may be more difficult than the traditional relationship. It is trust and love that keeps long distance relationships going. When you step into a long distance relationship, you began to understand the importance of spending time together and cherishing each moment.

Here are some long distance relationship quotes.

Long Distance Relationship Quotes

“In true love the smallest distance is too great and the greatest distance can be bridged.” – Hans Nouwens

long distance relationship quotes – Hans Nouwens

“Absence makes the heart grow fonder, but it sure makes the rest of you lonely.”

 – Charles M. Schulz

relationship quotes – Charles M. Schulz

Khalil Gibran once wrote that

“Love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation.”

long distance relationship quotes ― Donna Lynn Hope

Another amazing long distance relationship quotes by Meghan Daum is:

“Distance is not for the fearful, it is for the bold. It’s for those who are willing to spend a lot of time alone in exchange for a little time with the one they love. It’s for those knowing a good thing when they see it, even if they don’t see it nearly enough.”

A deep quote by Doug Fetherling is: 

“Your absence has not taught me how to be alone; it has merely shown me that when together we cast a single shadow on the wall.”

long distance relationship quotes -Doug Fetherling

These are some of the most famous and most heart-touching long distance relationship quotes. Even in long distance relationships you can feel that you are with someone even when you are miles apart. 

Communication is the key to any relationship, especially when it is a long distance relationship. Communication becomes one major factor when you are unable to physically see each other every day or even every few weeks. 

The long distance relationship, with appropriate communication and trust combined with support from both sides, can absolutely work.

Remember that even when you are apart from each other, you can still be together because of the love and the relationship that you have.

Donna Hope once said that.

“I don’t cry because we’ve been separated by distance, and for a matter of years. Why? Because for as long as we share the same sky and breathe the same air, we’re still together.”

long distance relationship quotes

When you are in a long distance relationship, you have to understand the meaning of being together and being faithful. When there is no faith, there is no relationship at all. 

Winnie the Pooh said; 

“How lucky what someone who has someone that makes saying goodbye so difficult.”

long distance relationship quotes -Winnie the Pooh

Love has to be strong enough to stand the distance.

Vacations for small business owners

Vacations for Small Business Owners

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Vacations for small business owners

How to Take a Self-Care Getaway on a Budget

Small business owners experience a lot of stress — and the last year has been particularly overwhelming. But did you know that taking a vacation may be just the ticket to combating entrepreneurial anxiety? When you’re running a company, it can be hard to get away, but studies show that taking time off to explore a new place offers an array of health benefits.

Of course, it costs money to take a trip — but it doesn’t have to cost an arm and a leg. Wherever you’re planning to travel, if you get familiar with a few tips and tricks of the travel world, your journey doesn’t have to break the bank. Consider this great advice from My Unbounded Life.

Make time to take a break

Little is more miserable than planning a break from the day-to-day details of running a business and spending the entire time in front of a computer. Instead of setting yourself up for a working vacation, set yourself up for a true vacation with time-saving, productivity-focused strategies. There are plenty of little things you can do to reduce the amount of time you spend on everyday tasks, and as a result, you can savor the time you spend away from the office.

Your annual report is a great example. All California businesses need to file one, but just because it’s something you’re required to file doesn’t mean you need to be the one doing all the work. Partnering with an online service like ZenBusiness is a great way to cut down on the amount of time and energy this obligation requires. They will set up a personalized dashboard for your company where your information is gathered and organized. Then, when the time comes, they will file the report on your behalf. It’s just one of the many tools and services you can lean on to make your work life easier and more efficient, so you can snag a well-deserved getaway now and then. 

Travel on the right flights

One of the best strategies for scoring affordable flights is to simply choose the least popular trips. A red-eye flight can save hundreds of dollars, and if you look into frequent flyer miles, you can reap even more savings. Choosing a flight that may be less comfortable and convenient will also pay off big for your pocketbook. And if you can be flexible with your travel dates, you can stretch those dollars even further.

On the road

Travel can be stressful, but the last thing you need to worry about is your trip’s impact on your budget. Start your travels off in the right direction with a little advanced planning. When your trip requires ground transportation, a car rental company like Enterprise is your one-stop shop for car rental services. You can get the lowest prices on a vast selection of vehicles that will get you where you need to go in style.

Where to stay

For accommodations, you’ll likely find comparable rates between short-term rentals and hotels in many destinations. When making your choice, ask yourself a few questions. First, consider the nature of your trip and what’s most important for your stay. Is it the novelty of sleeping in a secluded tiny house nestled by a quiet river, or is it the reliability of guaranteed service in the heart of the city? Are you traveling with children or flying solo? Whether you require a single room or an entire home, you can save cash by having clarity about your accommodation needs. One option is to look for hotel deals on sites like Groupon and Priceline. 

If you decide to book a hotel, pick one outside of the center of town. You’ll pay more for the convenience. Or, if you go with a vacation rental, you can save money on food by cooking meals in a fully stocked kitchen.

Talk with the locals

When you’re feeling adventurous, you can collect valuable advice from local residents and ask for info on things to do in town, where to eat, where to shop, and even where to stay. This could lead down an interesting path that you wouldn’t have otherwise followed while saving big. Many people are happy to share local tips if you just ask politely.

Discover free activities and events

There’s a wealth of free and low-cost activities and events available year-round in virtually any place you’d want to go. City Parks Departments offer beautifully tended green spaces with events like concerts, movie screenings (pack a picnic in a travel-friendly cooler for an inexpensive meal), and other fun entertainment for the whole family. Find playgrounds to delight the kiddos or sit and people-watch. Even just taking a quiet stroll through a park that’s new to you can be an uplifting activity full of discovery. If the weather isn’t agreeable to an outdoor trip, look for a library or museum to visit. Find free days at the art museum and enjoy the dose of culture and creativity.

It’s important to take time away from your small business, but in both your professional and personal lives, saving money is always a welcome endeavor. Plan your trip with the above tips for an unforgettable experience.

For more great advice on living a life without limits, keep up with the My Unbounded Life blog.

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Father's Day Gift Guide

Father’s Day Gift Guide

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Father's Day Gift Guide

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Getting a gift for dad can be a little difficult. When you are planning your Father’s Day Gift, try to research what he may like. Traditional Father’s Day Gifts are cool, but why don’t you try to be a little creative. This Father’s Day, why don’t you try out something different that will also spark his interest. Choose quality Father’s Day gift options that will not only make him happy but also make him feel a special.

If you are having trouble finding the perfect gift, don’t worry we have the perfect Father’s Day Gift guide below.

How to figure out a decent Father’s Day Gift:

  • Start exploring what your father (or the father in your life) loves and enjoys. If it is the kind of activity that require a gadget, why don’t you look for that particular gadget ?
  • If you feel that he’s been wanting to change his phone for a very long time, maybe you could buy him something expensive and surprise him with a new phone.
  • Most fathers are tech-savvy and want to explore new gadgets every time. Well, why don’t you get him new speakers or EarPods for him to explore?
  • Comfy clothing is one thing that dads would definitely enjoy having. Getting him something comfortable would make him feel a lot more protected and warmer.
  • Think about the things according to his perspective. Look for the objects that he enjoys having. If he enjoys traveling, why don’t you book him a ticket for a tour where he can de-stress himself. Or you can get him some antique and vintage objects if he enjoys collecting vintage products.

Also, sometimes he does not really need any monetary help or any materialistic gift. Sometimes he wants you to have a little chat with you where he can tell you how proud he is of you. Give him that, it will be the greatest gift for him.

Still wondering what the best Father’s Day Gift is?

Well, don’t you worry because we have a few of the options for you?

Retro flip clock

Trust me, fathers love Retro clocks. This one can be the ideal gift for him to place on his nightstand, or he can keep it on his desk. Rather than checking the screen for the time, he can always check the time on the super bougie and classy retro clock.

Wireless meat thermometer

A wireless thermometer is great for anyone that enjoys cooking. It will keep his steaks perfectly cooked to his satisfaction. 

Beer cooler

If camping and traveling is something that the dad in your life likes, gift him this cooler so he can take it along while traveling. Get him this durable and high-quality beer cooler that will attract him a bit more towards traveling or enjoying his time at the beach. Tell him that it’s time to relax and he can take a few days off and enjoy the best time. 

Fire grill for cooking steaks

Again, if your father (or dad in your life) loves to cook, get him this fire grill for cooking steaks or vegetables. It will be a fun activity that he enjoys doing and also family friendly. 

Massage gun

Does he often tell you that he is feeling aches and pains in his body? Do you want him to feel relaxed and a little bit more comfortable? Get him the massage gun that has the heat option as well. It will be the perfect gift that your father will enjoy. It has great reviews and is widely used among athletes. 

Temperature control ceramic mug

Does the dad in your life enjoying tea and coffee? Do you see him reheating already making the coffee again and again if the temperature cools down? Well, in that case, why don’t you get him this temperature control ceramic mug? This is the perfect Father’s Day gift. This ceramic mug has temperature control properties and will always keep the tea or the coffee warm. It will not require you to heat your tea and coffee after every few minutes.

A good quality shaving kit

Nothing can beat a good quality premium shaving kit. It is a classic gift that never goes wrong. If you are planning to get something for your father, why don’t you get him a shaving kit of premium quality and a little bit extravagance? You can find hundreds of best-quality shaving kits on Amazon and various other websites. Get a premium quality shaving kit that your father enjoys using.

Smartwatch

Is your father a fitness enthusiast? Do you want your father to stay fit and regulate his running and keep a look at his heartbeat and other integrals? Well, getting him a fitness smartwatch will definitely be a great gift for him. Get him a high-quality fitness smartwatch that can regulate his sleep pattern and track his steps and gallery count as well.   

These are some of those gifts that are amazing options that you can get for your father. It is important that you evaluate which might be his preference. Once you understand what he wants, it will not be difficult to find the appropriate gift for him. Just make sure that you are getting him something worthy and not just any gift. Buying your father an excellent Father’s Day gift could really brighten his Father’s Day.

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Sex vs. Intimacy

Sex vs Intimacy and the Difference Between the Two

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Sex vs. Intimacy

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Amanda Palmer has said the most beautiful thing about sex and intimacy. She says,  there is a difference between when you want others to see you than to look at you.

“There’s a difference between wanting to be looked at and wanting to be seen. One is exhibitionism, the other is connection. Not everybody wants to be looked at. Everybody wants to be seen.”   -Amanda Palmer

The same goes for sex and intimacy. Most of the world is deprived of both of these things these days, but it is sad to say that they cannot find the difference between these two things.

Intimacy is  more  than just a physical relationship, unlike like  sex when you are physically in contact with someone else. Intimacy includes the vulnerability of each other in which they are prone to any pretentiousness and are in their natural habitat. It is about opening yourself to others and sharing your darkest secrets or incidents of your life.

Sex Vs. Intimacy

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In plain English, it is a non-physical  existing link or connection between two human beings who are in search of a long-lasting relationship. It could be between any two persons, whether it be a couple of opposite or same gender or two friends. In sex, it is also possible that the connection in sex could be from only one side, but this is not the case with intimacy. Intimacy begins when the feeling is mutual and both people feel the same about each other. You can also be intimate with someone non-sexually (like with family or friends). 

What is sex without intimacy?

Sex is a symbol or a representation within intimacy. Sex can be included in intimacy, but it is not the same vice versa. You cannot call it intimacy and the only in the form of or symbol of intimacy that you and your partner(s) have is sex. It could be expressed in many other ways.

However, if you want to ask what sex is if there is no intimacy, it is just for fun. The one-night stand concept (getting in bed with a stranger for one “night” to enjoy sexual intimacy with them) is common in our society (especially millennial relationships). Some people view sex without intimacy just as a fun act and not harmful for people (safe sex please). Sex is also a sign of a healthy relationship between two people (or more) that are madly in love with each other.

Sex and love are two different things. For married couples, or people who have commitments with their partners, sex without intimacy becomes less complicated over time. In sex, there are no rules or any restrictions of showing deep feelings of love to your partner. You can also enjoy it in a way in which you fool around and have casual sex without showing romance to your partner.

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In this regard, the “friends with benefit” concept has grown much more popular among the youth these days. People do have sex with their friends without falling in love with them. With friends, it becomes easier because they have a good bond with each other, which makes it less awkward. There is no doubt that sex and intimacy are two separate things, but sex can change the perspective of your thinking. It can make things wonderful or complicated simultaneously.

Sex vs Intimacy

In simple words, the major difference between sex and intimacy is that you can say sex is a type of intimacy. Sex or any sexual activity is the physical (sexual) intimacy that you create with your partner. Whereas intimacy has a wider spectrum in its meaning. Sex has nothing to do with emotions or feelings, but intimacy includes how you feel about your partner, whether sex is included or not.

Usually, the people who are unable to get over their previous relationships are the ones that had intimacy in their relationship or they developed deep feelings for their partner. Sexual relationships that have intimacy can be challenging to close. It leaves a hole or a shallow place in their life that they are unable to fill again. Mostly, people move on with their first love, start their new life, have a new partner, family, but they can never forget that intimacy that they had with their previous lovers.

Types of Intimacies:

There are many kinds, but mainly four usually comes forward, which are described as follows:

Emotional:

Emotions are a part of our life. When we come to a point at which we feel completely comfortable sharing our deepest desires or dark secrets with our lovers or friends, this is when you achieve emotional intimacy. We feel comfortable sharing our issues with our siblings before anyone else because we know they will understand instead of mocking us.

Intellectual:

It relates to sharing your opinions or ideas about certain things. It does not mean that you share because others will agree with you. It could start a debate, but at least you will be able to put forward what you think about a certain topic, and it is healthy when someone has one or more persons with whom they can share their opinions.

Experimental:

This is the basic level of intimacy that you achieve with anyone. It is like when you start bonding with someone in your leisure time. It means you have mutual interests and share hobbies and like to spend your free time. It is an example of syncing up in teamwork or acting in unison in some activities.

Sexual:

Last but not least, sexual intimacy. People often confuse and include their sexual intimacy as intimacy in general, but there is a vast difference. It involves sexual activities, which are mainly about feeling physical about your partner.

Conclusion of Sex vs Intimacy and The Difference Between the Two :

Sex and intimacy are two different topics. Although these can be interlinked, one must understand the concept of intimacy. Sex might not sustain the relationship; although it is integral, intimacy is something that will retain your relationship and make it last longer. Couples might lose interest in sex after 10 to 15 years of marriage, but intimacy maintains the relationship. Remember to understand intimacy and sex are different concepts but constitute an important part of any relationship. Make sure you are exploring this vast topic, there is a lot of depth that you must know of. Learn how you can better your relationship with better intimacy with your partner.

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Guying texting

How To Text A Girl: Dating 101

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Guying texting

I was talking to a friend about a guy who had succeeded in receiving my number, but failed on successfully communicating with me. Whenever we talked or saw each other, it was a great time and we were clearly both interested in each other. What he failed at was communication, which puzzled me since he communicated for a living. After listening to my rant, she goes, “oh he just doesn’t know how to communicate with girls”.

Then it clicked. People know how to communicate. We do it all the time, but when it comes to someone that we have interest in, our emotions get in the way of communicating.

75% of millennials would rather text than talk, but we were never taught how to use this form of communication, since it was never done before.

Here is how to text a girl: Dating 101

How to approach a woman and ask her for her number:

I want to start at the very beginning of approaching a woman, the old fashion way. Say you are in a bar, lounge or such. Approach her and start a conversation. After you have a rapport with her, ask her for her number.  What should the rapport be? Talk about something that creates an interest in her, for you. When you are approaching a woman and asking her for her number, you are basically selling yourself and why you would be a good fit in her life. After you create interest, ask for the number. If she is hesitant, do not get discouraged, remember an hour ago, she didn’t know who you were.

woman receiving a text

When exchanging numbers, make sure you receive hers and then also have her put her name in your phone. This will allow for no mistakes when trying to reach back out. The most important thing, is when you walk away, send a cute and short text to her about how nice it was to meet her and something that insinuates that you do want to see her in the future. If you are bad with names, screen shot her name. This will help you remember.

 

How to ask a girl for her number from a dating site:

text messages

If you are on a dating site, it should be easier to know someone’s interest because they are on the site to usually “date”. Once again, do not jump the gun, but also do not take too long as it may look like you are prolonging the process to weigh your options. That is dangerous, especially if you are actually interested in the person. Build the rapport that I was mentioning earlier and then once you have built a common interest ask for the number and to take her out. If, you are hesitant to ask for her number, ask her out and then the day of, ask for her number and state something to her like, “in case the area does not have wifi”.

After the date, text her in regard to thanking her for coming out and something about the evening. You want to be memorable and also stand out, so be memorable and stand out when texting, communicating with her.

How to text a girl off of social media:

First you have to get the number, right? This can be hard. Watch the video above about getting the number from a social media site. Social media is sometimes used as a dating app, but for some it is a way to communicate with friends or sell products. You have to know who you are talking to. Once again, do not ask for the number too early. If you have a private account, take into account for that. Also, cater to the person you are talking to. Getting a phone number off of social media may take much longer, because the purpose is not concrete like a dating app or in person. 

One of the biggest fails I have seen with guys trying to get my number off of social media is doing too much too soon. Not letting it organically happen. Not trying to communicate and learn who I am because they are assuming off of posts and pressuring me. 

How to text a girl once you receive her number off of social media:

Now this is different because, now that you have her number, what is the difference between you texting and direct messaging? You need to create a difference. At the end of the day, if you are not meant to be, you can still be acquaintances or friends if you communicate properly. 

Be different and do something different than what you were doing the dms.

How to text a girl if you feel like she is losing interest:

Girl receiving a text

This is actually quite easy. Go right back to what you were doing in the beginning and repeat it. Too often people get comfortable in relationships and forget to do the things that they were doing in the beginning of the relationship. This is not good at all. You want her to smile when she reads your texts. You want to remember your goal of the relationship with her. Asking her about her day and learning about her life is important. You also want to share. 

Not everyone is a text communicator. If you feel like she is losing interest through texts, ask her preference on communicating. 

Meet up with her. If it is not a long distance relationship, then ask her out on a date to keep the chemistry going and to build on it.

Here is how to text girls to meet up with you:

Make her feel comfortable and safe by not applying pressure. Ask her out directly by supplying the place and time, but do not be overbearing. 

How to text a girl

Do not do too much too soon. 

You want her to smile when you text her and it is easy, keep it positive. If she asks you about your day, text her a positive thing about your day. When you are beginning to text, you are learning her texting style and social cues. Do not move or assume too much too fast. 

The phone calls and text messages from guys are the ones that do not leave me feeling peaceful when the call ends. 

You don’t have to type in complete sentences, but watch your spelling and grammar. No need to use grammarly, or maybe you should. During your initial stages, you are trying to leave a great impression. Do that by making sure your text messages sound intelligent. 

Use emojis to help create context behind the sentence. 

Do not rush into marriage mode too fast. 

How to text when you have nothing to text about:

People, in general, love to talk about themselves. You can ask her about her job or siblings. Ask her about her accomplishments or proudest moments. Tell her about a movie you just watched and ask her if she has seen it. “If you ask about her favorite movie and if you haven’t seen it, make an effort to see it.” Make jokes. Being funny goes a long way.

When texting a girl, when do I ask her out?

Once you have built comradely with her, you also want her to be curious about who you are. Light conversations through text and real conversations in person, if this not a long distance relationship. 

If you are the one that approached her, you should be the one asking her out. Do not take too long to ask her out, because it looks like you maybe weighing your options, especially if you received her number over a social media site.

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How to not text a girl:

  1. Do not be hot and cold.
  2. Do not play games with the texting reply times. This little game has been exposed. Too many times people are hot in the beginning and the pull back. It leaves the other person to wonder why they are pulling back and their assumption is not always true. 

You do not need to text all day, but when you do, make sure there is substance to it and that you text her back quickly. 

I have seen so much bad advice about making her wait. If you make certain women wait, you will be waiting for the rest of times. Certain women do not play games, and honestly those are the ones that are more solid because their confidence is much higher that the ones that are doubtful. 

Double texting is not a bad thing depending on the situation. You have to cater to the person and situation. Individualize your communication and stop with the cookie-cutter dating. 

I have friends that are single mothers and sometimes their kids have their phones.

I have friends that work 12 hour days and the last thing they want is to be pressured at the end of the day. 

3. Do no be overbearing. Remember, she doesn’t owe you anything. You approached her. Be patient, but also persistent without being needy. You want to be a part of her life, not her whole life. 

How to text a girl recap: 

  1. Get her number by applying the principles directed above.
  2. Create a bond by learning who she is and figuring out what you two have in common. 
  3. Make her curious about you through texting. 
  4. Do not be desperate.
  5. Be positive in text and leave the real conversation to when you meet up with her. 
  6. Watch your grammar and spelling.
  7. Do not play games through text
  8. Make your intentions known.
  9. Do not wait too long to ask her out.

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3 Budget-Friendly Strategies for Practicing Self-Care as an Introvert

3 Budget-Friendly Strategies for Practicing Self-Care as an Introvert

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As an introvert, a healthy self-care routine is crucial to your physical, mental, and emotional well-being. Without self-care, you’re not giving yourself the time and space you need to recharge your mind and body — and you risk mental exhaustion and social burnout. According to IntrovertSpring, some signs of introvert burnout include depression, fatigue, and irritability.

Fortunately, there are some things you can do to care for your introverted mind and body —long before you begin to experience social burnout. What’s more, many of these self-care remedies can fit just about any budget — and they can be practiced from the comfort of your home.

To explore three budget-friendly self-care strategies for introverts, read on!

1. Exercise from Home

Whether you’re an introvert, extrovert, or ambivert, regular exercise is essential to your physical, mental, and emotional well-being. Not only does exercise help to enhance your mood and alleviate symptoms of depression, but it could also treat or even prevent anxiety in some cases. When you’re an introvert who’d prefer to exercise at home or on your own, however, some workouts will benefit you more than others. To meet your exercise needs as an introvert, the pros at PopSugar Fitness recommend solo activities like running, swimming, cycling, or following along to a free online workout video or yoga class.

As you start a solo exercise routine, you may need to purchase some exercise gear and workout equipment that boosts your comfort and confidence. However, you can save on the purchase of your new athletic equipment and clothing if you shop online at stores like Dick’s Sporting Goods and QVC. For instance, you can find QVC promo codes and coupons before placing your online order — helping you to save big on everything from exercise equipment and fitness trackers to vitamins and nutritional supplements.

2. Make Time to Relax

If you’re an introverted personality type, alone time and relaxation are key to recharging your energy levels, clearing your mind, managing stress, relieving tension, and maintaining good physical, mental, and emotional well-being. A few budget-friendly relaxation techniques for
introverts include:

● Reading a book or magazine.
● Meditating with a free mindfulness app such as Insight Timer or Smiling Mind.
● Napping when you’re feeling drained.
● Soaking in a hot bath filled with soothing homemade salts.
● Walking in nature.
● Journaling, painting, drawing, or coloring.

While you could certainly pay for a professional massage, manicure, or facial when you’re feeling overwhelmed with life and in need of some downtime, there are plenty of other ways to relax for free or at a very low cost.

3. Disconnect from Technology

There isn’t a one-size-fits-all self-care strategy for introverted personality types, but these three ideas will help you to find an affordable self-care remedy that recharges you and enhances your physical, mental, and emotional well-being. Whether you unwind with a good book, deactivate
the social media notifications on your smartphone, or enjoy a solo workout like walking, swimming, or practicing yoga at home, you’ll be recharging your mind, body, and soul — all without spending a fortune on self-care.

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