Dating in 2020 can be hard, do we agree? Sometimes it is hard to transition from an online app to the real world. Once the COVID-19 is over with, use these tips for your first date.
11 First Date Questions
First Date Questions That Don't Totally Suck
Here’s 11 first date questions that will help that awkward first 20 minutes and hopefully ease you into a useful conversation.
1. What was the highlight of your day?
You don’t have to ask it just like this, but asking a precise question can lead to more of a direct answer instead of an open ended questions like “How was your Day?”- which a shy person may just answer “Good” or “It was okay”.
2. Tell me about your closest friends?
This is a great questions that will open up the topic of family and friends.
3. Have you been to any good restaurants recently?
You can learn a bit about their lifestyle habits and what type of food that they might be into.
4. Are you watching any good movies or TV shows?
If they don’t enjoy the Cinema or TV, you can ask the next question…
5. Are you more of an indoors or outdoors person?
Maybe the next date idea?
6. What pets have you had?
Pet’s are a big part of certain people lives. It’s important to learn about their furry best friend.
7. Are you a morning person or a night owl?
Here you can tell a little about their lifestyle habits.
8. What did you do last summer?
Could lead to more questions about favorite places to vacation
9. What are people often surprised to learn about you?
A question that can lead to vulnerability and openness.
10. What’s your favorite holiday?
You can tell if birthdays are important to them or family oriented holidays.
11. What habit do you wish you could start?
This is a question that many people do not ask. May lead to a conversation about future goals and dreams.
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How to get over an Ex
The Millennial Relationship Guru
Breakups can seem like the hardest thing that you will ever deal with.
We can usually see it happening, but sometimes nothing can prepare us for the void that we may feel afterwards. Sometimes the process of how to get over an ex, can seem like a long and painful one.
Here are healthy ways to began the healing process and cope with a breakup.
1. Get support from your support system
Family and Friends are necessary in a time like this. You need to surround yourself with people that sincerely care about you. Use this time to catch up with your little brother or take that girls trip that you have been putting off because you were in a relationship. Have lunch with your mom or dad. Fill your void with love.
2. Listen to sad love songs
We psychologically find comfort when we realize that we are not alone. Love songs can remind us that we are not the only one having these problems. Listen to sad love songs, but keep a mix of empowerment songs within your love songs.
3. Start a hobby
You know those walls you never painted? Those scrapbooks you never filled. Maybe that yoga or martial arts class that you put off because you didn’t have the time? Become active and more social.
4. Start a journal
Writing can be the best therapy. Get a blank journal and began to write. Write about your relationship and the mistakes that were taken place. Write about what you would do in future relationships. Writing allows us to step back revaluate things. It can also provide another perspective.
5. Hang out with single people
If you haven’t hung around single people in a while, then begin to hang out with singles in a group setting. This will make the transition easier.
6. Give yourself time to process your feelings
Time does heal. Let yourself process your relationship and breakup. Begin to purge items that are reminders. You might also need to separate your social life from theirs by deleting them from social media and avoiding the places they frequent.
7. Speak to some professionally
If you have built a life with someone and planned on spending all of your years with this individual, it is perfectly normal to feel lost. If you feel lost, speak to someone. It helps.
9 Things that are Normal in Relationships
That People think are Abnormal
Here are 9 Things that are Normal in Relationships that People think are Abnormal, but are completely normal in healthy relationships.
“When I first met my husband, I tried to be the perfect person for him. In doing that I stopped being myself and focused solely on just pleasing him. I didn’t realize that the conflict that I ran from, was normal in relationships. I didn’t realized that I was emulating the traditional relationship that I saw in my childhood. Once I let go of trying to obtain perfection we organically grew closer.”
- Feeling annoyed with your partner
You are two different people with different likes and interest; of course you will get annoyed. Annoyance is an emotion that offers room for growth. If you get annoyed with something your partner does, it opens the door for a discussion and within that discussion, you and your partner can get closer and learn more about each other. Indifference is the emotion that should be worrisome.
2. Not feeling lovey dovey all the time
Unfortunately, real life happens and the honeymoon phase usually fades with time, but always working on the passion and creating a strong bond builds upon your Chemistry. Chemistry and compatibility are more important than Passion.
3. Needing personal space
As the years go by, we as individuals grow. Knowing who you are is important for a healthy relationship. That allows you to know your standards, what you will accept, your morals, etc. Personal time allows you to focus on you without having to appease someone else.
4. Feeling Bored
It is easy to fall into a rut and be bored by the everyday routine. Recognizing this is half the battle; the other half is implementing things get out of that rut. Both parties have to be willing to shake it up and try new things.
There’s nothing wrong with arguing, if you do it respectfully. When you have two different individuals from two different backgrounds, of course there will be differences. Arguing resolves conflict and as long as you respectfully argue and know how to resolve an argument by coming to a compromise.
6. Over-Sharing your Bathroom Experience
Pooping, peeing, doing other gross grooming is common with couples. If it begins to get in the way of sexy time, make sure you close the bathroom door or try to do those things when you have privacy.
7. Things not being 50/50
A 50/50 relationship means that each individual is participating and giving the same amount of their selves for fairness. This is unrealistic. There will be times where each individual will have to pitch in certain areas more than the other due to circumstance or wellbeing. As long as you are not taking advantage of your significant other and you both have an understanding.
8. Being Wrong
Perfection is something that is unattainable; so, of course you will be wrong at some point. That is okay. You are human and allowed room for error and growth.
9. Not Being perfect
This goes hand in hand with being wrong. You don’t have to be the perfect spouse and that is okay. Not being perfect allows you to express yourself and make mistakes that you can grow from.
12 Inspirational Father's Day Quotes
Inspirational Father's Day Quotes that are perfect your Father's Day card, inspiration, or just because....
- “A father is someone you look up to no matter how tall you grow.”
2. “It’s only when you grow up and step back from him—or leave him for your own home—it’s only then that you can measure his greatness and fully appreciate it.”
3. “A father is neither an anchor to hold us back nor a sail to take us there, but a guiding light whose love shows us the way.”
4. “Any man can be a father, but it takes someone special to be a Dad.”
– Anne Geddes
5. “Dads are most ordinary men turned by love into heroes, adventurers, story-tellers, and singers of song.”
6. “Old as she was, she still missed her daddy sometimes.”
7. “The heart of a father is the masterpiece of nature.”
-Antoine Francois Prevost
8. “What you teach your children, you also teach their children.”
9. “Any fool can have a child. That doesn’t make you a father. It’s the courage to raise a child that makes you a father.”
10. “He adopted a role called being a father so that his child would have something mythical and infinitely important: a protector.”
11. “A daughter needs a dad to be the standard against which she will judge all men.”
-Gregory E. Lang
12. “A good father is one of the most unsung, unpraised, unnoticed, and yet one of the most valuable assets in our society.”
Why Farting in Relationships is Actually a Good Sign
Farting in Relationship, although gross, is normal, but what does it mean for your relationship?
Your on the couch with your girlfriend or boyfriend and your stomach gurgles.
Your immediate reaction is to clinch. Hold on tight! Don’t let it go!
We keep it in as an effort of producing and maintaining a picture perfect image, but hold the phone…
According to research, farting in relationships is actually good sign for your relationship.
What!!!??? All of those painful gassy moments were for nothing?
Before you start polluting the air space around your hemisphere, let’s learn why farting in relationships is a good sign.
Mic, a digital news company, surveyed over 125 20 and 30-year-olds to see when most people “break the fart barrier”. Their research found that “most people wait between two and six months into a relationship, which also happens to be prime ‘I love you’ time.”
What does this all mean?
If you are able to be yourself, without judgment, with your significant other – your relationship is headed in the right direction. A positive milestone.
I can remember the first time I farted in front of my husband. It was 10 years ago and about eight months within our relationship.
We had gone on a nine hour road trip with several other people and had finally arrived to our hotel room. Long story short, I thought he was sleeping, only later to find out that he was up and heard all of my trumpets, as I let out hours worth of pain. After I found out that he heard me, and I broke the fart cherry, I decided that the stomach pains were not worth it. Wow, what a lifestyle changer.
So yes, farting in your relationship is a good sign because it shows acceptance and comfortability.
5 Tips for a better
Relationship in 2019
Love is in the air
Tips for a better relationship in 2019.
1. Always make time to re-connect, even if it is 50 seconds or 15 minutes
Make time to ask your significant other about their day and make sure you are sincerely asking and listening.
Put down the electronics; in fact leave them in the other room to make sure you are paying attention.
Make sure you are spending moments of quality time with just you and your significant other. It might seem impossible to escape the kids, moms and dads, the posse, but you have to make time to do so.
2. Be nice
This might seems such a silly thing to say, but after a long hard day, it can be tough. Rule of Thumb, never be nicer to a stranger than to your significant other.
Do not take out your frustrations on the one you love. Like the 90’s R&B singer Donell Jones said “… But when you love someone…You just don’t treat them bad”. This is the truth. Think about what you are doing and saying.
3. Make sure your intimate
Intimacy means different things to different people. It could be from holding hands to sex. Both partners need to be satisfied and understanding within this process, but it is important.
4. Check in
Don’t go the whole day without speaking to one another. If you are forgetful to check in, put a reminder on your phone.
I once shared an office with a woman who was married for over 25 years with three grown children. She and her husband spoke at least 4 times a day (that I overheard). They were informing each other about things going on in their day, asking questions and also arguing. But that is real life. Stop excluding your significant other from the small things and let them be apart of all things by checking in.
5. Always have your partner’s back (layman terms)
Unity is such a powerful thing. A relationship ran in unity is stronger than an un-united front. You should be able to talk and bounce back ideas with one another. Agreeing is not necessary but compromising is.
Leave arguments (unless they are playful banter) behind doors and always (try) to look like a united front. -Meaning stop letting other people get involved in your relationship and have un-qualified opinions about your relationship.
Some people feed on drama and want others to be as miserable as them. Watch who you are confiding in.