9 Things that are Normal in Relationships
That People think are Abnormal
03-26-2018
Ana Lefebvre
Here are 9 Things that are Normal in Relationships that People think are Abnormal, but are completely normal in healthy relationships.
“When I first met my husband, I tried to be the perfect person for him. In doing that I stopped being myself and focused solely on just pleasing him. I didn’t realize that the conflict that I ran from, was normal in relationships. I didn’t realized that I was emulating the traditional relationship that I saw in my childhood. Once I let go of trying to obtain perfection we organically grew closer.”
- Feeling annoyed with your partner
You are two different people with different likes and interest; of course you will get annoyed. Annoyance is an emotion that offers room for growth. If you get annoyed with something your partner does, it opens the door for a discussion and within that discussion, you and your partner can get closer and learn more about each other. Indifference is the emotion that should be worrisome.
2. Not feeling lovey dovey all the time
Unfortunately, real life happens and the honeymoon phase usually fades with time, but always working on the passion and creating a strong bond builds upon your Chemistry. Chemistry and compatibility are more important than Passion.
3. Needing personal space
As the years go by, we as individuals grow. Knowing who you are is important for a healthy relationship. That allows you to know your standards, what you will accept, your morals, etc. Personal time allows you to focus on you without having to appease someone else.
4. Feeling Bored
It is easy to fall into a rut and be bored by the everyday routine. Recognizing this is half the battle; the other half is implementing things get out of that rut. Both parties have to be willing to shake it up and try new things.
*Try cost efficient things like having a Netflix night or purchasing a MoviePass.
5. Arguments
There’s nothing wrong with arguing, if you do it respectfully. When you have two different individuals from two different backgrounds, of course there will be differences. Arguing resolves conflict and as long as you respectfully argue and know how to resolve an argument by coming to a compromise.
6. Over-Sharing your Bathroom Experience
Pooping, peeing, doing other gross grooming is common with couples. If it begins to get in the way of sexy time, make sure you close the bathroom door or try to do those things when you have privacy.
7. Things not being 50/50
A 50/50 relationship means that each individual is participating and giving the same amount of their selves for fairness. This is unrealistic. There will be times where each individual will have to pitch in certain areas more than the other due to circumstance or wellbeing. As long as you are not taking advantage of your significant other and you both have an understanding.
8. Being Wrong
Perfection is something that is unattainable; so, of course you will be wrong at some point. That is okay. You are human and allowed room for error and growth.
9. Not Being perfect
This goes hand in hand with being wrong. You don’t have to be the perfect spouse and that is okay. Not being perfect allows you to express yourself and make mistakes that you can grow from.