The Millennial Relationship Guru
Breakups can seem like the hardest thing that you will ever deal with.
We can usually see it happening, but sometimes nothing can prepare us for the void that we may feel afterwards. Sometimes the process of how to get over an ex, can seem like a long and painful one.
Here are healthy ways to began the healing process and cope with a breakup.
1. Get support from your support system
Family and Friends are necessary in a time like this. You need to surround yourself with people that sincerely care about you. Use this time to catch up with your little brother or take that girls trip that you have been putting off because you were in a relationship. Have lunch with your mom or dad. Fill your void with love.
2. Listen to sad love songs
We psychologically find comfort when we realize that we are not alone. Love songs can remind us that we are not the only one having these problems. Listen to sad love songs, but keep a mix of empowerment songs within your love songs.
3. Start a hobby
You know those walls you never painted? Those scrapbooks you never filled. Maybe that yoga or martial arts class that you put off because you didn’t have the time? Become active and more social.
4. Start a journal
Writing can be the best therapy. Get a blank journal and began to write. Write about your relationship and the mistakes that were taken place. Write about what you would do in future relationships. Writing allows us to step back revaluate things. It can also provide another perspective.
5. Hang out with single people
If you haven’t hung around single people in a while, then begin to hang out with singles in a group setting. This will make the transition easier.
6. Give yourself time to process your feelings
Time does heal. Let yourself process your relationship and breakup. Begin to purge items that are reminders. You might also need to separate your social life from theirs by deleting them from social media and avoiding the places they frequent.
7. Speak to someone professionally
If you have built a life with someone and planned on spending all of your years with this individual, it is perfectly normal to feel lost. If you feel lost, speak to someone. It helps.