Thirsty vs Sexy

There’s a line between being thirsty and sexy. A line that, many females think, gets crossed a lot (according to Instagram surveys).

I asked seven females what qualities in man qualifies thirsty versus sexy and here are their anonymous contributions.

AL: “So What is Thirsty?”

“Thirsty is when he is constantly in your DMs, sweating you for your attention and when you don’t respond how he likes, he starts saying something negative or belittles you.”

“It is when a guy asks you out without trying to get to know you first, especially the persistent ones. It’s like my dude, I’m not going to go out with a stranger.” 

AL: “What Qualifies a Man as Sexy?”

“Sexy is charming. Sexy is being in the DM, but not like everyone else. He may approach you with respect, humor and is interested in you, not just for sex. He can say something like, ‘…you’re fine and I know you can buy your own food, but let me do that for you…’ or something similar. They are the ones with something more than the average man.”

“Sexy is like ‘What’s up? I want to take you out. Wine and dine you.’ He lets you know that, yeah you’re sexy. He’s better than the average guy and wants more than just sex.”

“I think ‘Sexy’ is a confident man that exudes self-awareness with a balance of assertion.”

AL: “How Can You Tell if the Guy is ‘Thirsty’?”

“You can kind of tell thirsty from sexy because thirsty almost annoys you; sexy charms you.”

“Thirsty men are low key insecure and try to overcompensate for some area of their life. They are uncertain of and usually project those insecurities on others, particularly women who may share similar or personal insecurities as well.”

“‘Thirsty’ is: I’ll take that anytime anyplace because I might not get again!” 

AL: “How Do You Not Become ‘Thirsty’ If You are Trying to Pick Up a Girl Online?”

“Something that is big for me is the choice of words men choose to use when trying to pick you up. Some will approach very polite and some just approach with some sort of entitlement! Being polite is always favored not, “Hey you’re fine we should talk 999-666-6667” …ummm no. How about getting to know each other first to see why we should speak in the first place.” 

AL: “What About When Commenting on Pictures?”

“When commenting on pictures go with ‘You look pretty’ vs ‘Damn that ass looks heavy!’ Like what? Then be like ‘here’s my number’ ; that’s a thirsty dude.”

AL: “What Would You Say to the Guys Out There That Are Being ‘Thirsty’?”

“To all of the thirsty guys out there that are constantly in your DMs after you’ve made numerous attempts to show that you are not interested and those that like and comment on all of your posts knowing that they don’t have a chance: Stop it! It’s not attractive and honestly doesn’t draw us females towards you, so just chill. If we like you we’ll make it known and if we don’t simply just move on. Life’s way too short! Talk to females that are actually interested in you. Stop harassing those that find you annoying.”

“Another type of guy that is just as annoying as thirsty ones are the overly sexy ones. I’m not talking about those that are hardworking and are simply good looking because of their God-given body. I’m talking about those that use their body to try to get females instead of using their brains. Like ‘yes your 6 pack and muscular arms are nice, but if you can’t hold a good conversation, I’m not interested’. My advice to all those sexy looking guys out there is to let your body be an added bonus and treat your lady like she deserves to be treated. Don’t think that because you have a nice body it means that you can get any woman that you want. Looks don’t always last forever and you have to have something else going for you…well, that’s if you want a lasting relationship.”