Female Sexuality Part 2

Female Sexuality

Sexuality- your attraction, behaviors, feelings and thoughts towards others, sexually.

Female Sexuality

I wrote this podcast series because of the misconception about women’s sexuality.

I believe it is best to start at the very beginning to actually understand the cultural and economic circumstances that surround female sexuality measuring cup.

1. Female sexuality is culturally and economically related.

2. Females are traditionally supposed to make themselves desirable, but nothing more. If a woman is sexually forward, negative innuendo are often said about her. 

3. Society throws the fairytale view of romance to women and they often subconsciously use this as the romance measuring cup.

4. We as women, must change the current narrative of the female sexuality. 

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  • The female libido depends on the individual. 
  • I have explained in previous podcasts that about 70% of women do not have an orgasm from sexual intercourse. My question to you, if you were used to not having an orgasm, would you always want sex?
  • Female Oral Sex is extremely important since this how most females reach an orgasm, but is seen as optional*.
  • There’s no female viagra (think about that).

Did you know that females can have multiple orgasms and different types?

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Love & Lust Podcast

Don’t Be Afraid of the Friend Zone

Love & Lust The Podcast

Do you fear the friend zone?

I get asked this question a lot. It is a real fear that exists for guys, but the friend zone should not be something that you are afraid of, I mean at least you are in a zone right? Please note that the YouTube video and Podcast is different. 

Click below to watch or listen to relationship advice about “Signs that You are in the Friend Zone” and why you should not be afraid of it. Also, when should you friend zone yourself? 

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Valentine's Day Gift Ideas

5 Affordable Valentine’s Day Gift Ideas for Women

Gift Ideas for that special lady in your life

Can’t figure out what to get your wife or girlfriend for Valentine’s Day? Here are some fail proof Valentine’s Days gift ideas that fits any budget. 

Tip:  Start with a budget and work around that.

Don’t have money for a fancy dinner- then make it.

Don’t have money for a full bouquet of roses, buy just one or go to Home Depot and buy a nice plant. 

1. Bathtub Tray

Perfect for an at home spa day. Add other gifts like bath balms and a nice loofah.

2. Jewelry Box

A jewelry box is a fantastic Valentine’s day gift idea. Just make sure the recipient has jewelry to place inside of it. 

Tip: TJMaxx is a great place to go or Amazon if you are on a time crunch. 

3. An Online Club

You can format it to your budget. Choose for a couple of months or for the whole year. The great thing about this is that it is the gift that keeps on giving.

Birchbox- awesome beauty products and makeup

AdoreMe – lingerie and more

ShoeDazzle – for the shoe lover

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4. Ouai Gift Set

Ouai is a current cult favorite. Their hair products are sheek and of high quality.

5. Yoga Mat

For your Yoga Enthusiast or Spouse that wants to get into Yoga. Yoga matts are also perfect for stretching in the house and meditating.

 

 
Things Every Bride Should Know Before Her Wedding Day

14 Things that Things Every Bride Should Know Before Her Wedding Day

Things Every Bride Should Know Before Her Wedding Day

When your wedding day comes it’s going to be quick and fast and you are going to want to be prepared. There may be a lot of last minute things that happen that will be out of your control, but the things you can control, you should be prepared for. 

Here's 14 Things Every Bride Should Know Before Her Wedding Day.

1. Don’t be afraid to ask for money instead of a gift registry. I know that this may be frowned upon, but weddings are expensive and if you don’t have money for a honeymoon, this is a great way to fund it.

Now a days, a lot of wedding registry gifts are something we already have or don’t need. Decades ago traditional couples would get married and move into a house together. The wedding registry was a terrific way for them to get things like mixing bowls. Now a days, couples already live together and the necessities are already purchased. 

“Don’t plan your trip counting on wedding money from the honeymoon. It is financially wise to wait to see what funds that you will have (if you are counting on the wedding money) and then plan it according to your budget.” -Ana Editor-In-Chief

2. Wear comfortable shoes.

Even if your feet are not shown, it is tacky to exchange shoes. You will notice it in the picture for later. Just wear comfortable shoes.

“If you are going to wear flats, wear flats the whole night. My shoes were not the prettiest, but they were pretty and the heel was comfortable.” -Ana

3. Make sure you check your undergarments weeks before the wedding.

The correct undergarments can be hard to find. The last thing you want is to look in the mirror and see lines or see through fabric. 

“It took me almost 4 weeks to find the correct undergarments for my dress. Don’t wait until the last minute or the day of to try your undergarments on.”- Ana

4. If you are doing your own makeup, make sure you practice and then take pictures with flash to see what they will look like. If you hire makeup artist, always hire someone that is highly recommended because slow or unqualified makeup artists can make/break your day.

The timing of getting your hair and makeup done is important, especially if your whole makeup bridal party is getting it done too. If you have large bridal party, have all of your bridesmaids bring their foundation, that way the makeup artist do not have skin tone match them. 

“With hair/makeup and photographers, I always advise to use someone that you know or comes highly recommended. Make sure you have at least 3 hair/makeup artist per 5 people. ” -Ana

5. Don’t get a facial right before the wedding.

Get it at least a week prior. You do not want any flare up or allergic reactions to happen for your wedding day. 

“I would never try a facial for the first time right before my wedding. Get one a couple months prior to test it out. .” -Ana

6. Have someone set aside food from the cocktail hour for you to eat.

During your cocktail hour, you will be probably be taking pictures. You might completely miss it; so, have someone bring you food so you don’t go into the reception hungry. The reception you will sit down for a moment before everything starts and you will also be greeting guests. 

“The first 2 hours of the reception goes by fast. That is usually the time the food is served. If you are planning to drink, plan to eat as well. “- Ana

7. Have some with pockets that is responsible, like your dad, brother etc. hold your phone and lipstick.

If your dad is walking you down the isle, his suit coat pockets are the perfect place to stash your essentials during the ceremony. 

8. Assign tasks to people, even if you have a wedding planner.

Delegating is a must for you to enjoy your day. Have someone you trust check on things you may be nervous about.

“I wish I delegated more tasks. I will always be haunted by the 1000’s of flower petals that missed the ceremony floor. “- Ana

9. Pause and take in the day.

They day will go by so fast that everything will be hard to remember. Take in the moment and enjoy what the day actually means. Don’t sweat the small stuff.

“I had about 3 huge mishaps on the day of the wedding that I had to just let go of. I was already tired and stressed that if I decided to make those things the focus of my attention, I would have fell apart and the wedding would have been a disaster “- Ana

10. Accept that the day might not be all about you.

 A lot of people with a lot of different personalities will be there. Do not let anything ruin your day.

11. Let go… if something happens have someone assigned to handle it. Let nothing ruin your day.

Have someone you trust handle all of the things that may come up. At the end of the day, the bride does have to entertain and greet her guest. You need to be front and center, not in the back handeling things. 

12. Make sure you eat before the wedding.

Eat every meal. Do not skip a meal. 

13. Do nothing the day of the wedding.

The only thing that you should plan on doing is arriving at your venue. If you have to go to the salon, make sure you have someone with you that can help you stay on track with time.  

14. Practice moving in your dress.

Have a friend move around in the dress for you to emulate your spouse in your wedding dance. Practice walking around, so you don’t trip the day of. 

First Date Questions

11 First Date Questions

First Date Questions

Here’s 11 first date questions that will help that awkward first 20 minutes and hopefully ease you into a useful conversation. 

1. What was the highlight of your day?

You don’t have to ask it just like this, but asking a precise question can lead to more of a direct answer instead of an open ended questions like “How was your Day?”- which a shy person may just answer “Good” or “It was okay”.

2. Tell me about your closest friends?

This is a great questions that will open up the topic of family and friends.

3. Have you been to any good restaurants recently?

You can learn a bit about their lifestyle habits and what type of food that they might be into. 

4. Are you watching any good movies or TV shows?

If they don’t enjoy the Cinema or TV, you can ask the next question…

5. Are you more of an indoors or outdoors person?

Maybe the next date idea?

6. What pets have you had?

Pet’s are a big part of certain people lives. It’s important to learn about their furry best friend. 

7. Are you a morning person or a night owl?

Here you can tell a little about their lifestyle habits.

8. What did you do last summer?

Could lead to more questions about favorite places to vacation

9. What are people often surprised to learn about you?

A question that can lead to vulnerability and openness. 

10. What’s your favorite holiday?

You can tell if birthdays are important to them or family oriented holidays. 

11. What habit do you wish you could start?

This is a question that many people do not ask. May lead to a conversation about future goals and dreams.

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How to get over an Ex

How to get over an Ex

Asking Ana

The Millennial Relationship Guru

08-03-2018

Breakups can seem like the hardest thing that you will ever deal with.

We can usually see it happening, but sometimes nothing can prepare us for the void that we may feel afterwards. Sometimes the process of how to get over an ex, can seem like a long and painful one.

Here are healthy ways to began the healing process and cope with a breakup.

How to get over an Ex

1. Get support from your support system

Family and Friends are necessary in a time like this. You need to surround yourself with people that sincerely care about you. Use this time to catch up with your little brother or take that girls trip that you have been putting off because you were in a relationship. Have lunch with your mom or dad. Fill your void with love.

2. Listen to sad love songs

We psychologically find comfort when we realize that we are not alone. Love songs can remind us that we are not the only one having these problems. Listen to sad love songs, but keep a mix of empowerment songs within your love songs. 

3. Start a hobby

You know those walls you never painted? Those scrapbooks you never filled. Maybe that yoga or martial arts class that you put off because you didn’t have the time? Become active and more social.

4. Start a journal

Writing can be the best therapy. Get a blank journal and began to write. Write about your relationship and the mistakes that were taken place. Write about what you would do in future relationships. Writing allows us to step back revaluate things. It can also provide another perspective.

5. Hang out with single people

 If you haven’t hung around single people in a while, then begin to hang out with singles in a group setting. This will make the transition easier. 

6. Give yourself time to process your feelings

Time does heal. Let yourself process your relationship and breakup. Begin to purge items that are reminders. You might also need to separate your social life from theirs by deleting them from social media and avoiding the places they frequent.

7. Speak to some professionally

If you have built a life with someone and planned on spending all of your years with this individual, it is perfectly normal to feel lost. If you feel lost, speak to someone. It helps.